Post by tia on Jun 23, 2007 21:34:05 GMT
I know this is a long read but it is well worth it ;D
>Retirement
>
>It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
>becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
>when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them.
>Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive
>woman.
>
>My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
>Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to
>get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income
>and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started
>working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home
>from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
>
>Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to
>rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at
>her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she
>gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at
>the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked
>grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we
>finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table
>for several hours after dinner.
>I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each
>evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates
>this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes
>to bed.
>
>Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will
>say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills
>during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I
>just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over
>two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also
>remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her
>any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong
>points.
>
>When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
>She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard.
>I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a
>nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a
>while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
>make one for me too.
>
>I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I'm
>not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
>find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better
>than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys,
>even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging
>wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
>worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
>
>
>Signed,
>Jim
>
>*EDITOR'S NOTE:*
>
>Jim died suddenly on July 27 of a perforated rectum. The police report
>says he was found with a Callaway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver
>II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip
>showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby.
>
>His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury
>took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that
>Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.
>
>Retirement
>
>It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
>becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
>when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them.
>Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive
>woman.
>
>My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
>Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to
>get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income
>and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started
>working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home
>from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.
>
>Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to
>rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at
>her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she
>gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at
>the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked
>grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we
>finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table
>for several hours after dinner.
>I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each
>evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates
>this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes
>to bed.
>
>Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will
>say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills
>during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I
>just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over
>two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also
>remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her
>any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong
>points.
>
>When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.
>She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard.
>I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a
>nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a
>while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
>make one for me too.
>
>I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I'm
>not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
>find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better
>than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys,
>even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging
>wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
>worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
>
>
>Signed,
>Jim
>
>*EDITOR'S NOTE:*
>
>Jim died suddenly on July 27 of a perforated rectum. The police report
>says he was found with a Callaway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver
>II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip
>showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby.
>
>His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury
>took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that
>Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.
>